Introduction
Trauma affects more people than we realize, and it’s not always as obvious as we think. In this episode of the Let’s Talk About It Podcast, we explore what trauma truly is, why some experiences go unrecognized, and how unresolved trauma can shape mental health and daily life.
Guest Introduction
Joining this conversation is Betty Lim, a Registered and Licensed Counsellor (KB11954, PA11572) specializing in Solution-Focused Brief Therapy and Person-Centred Therapy. Betty believes in creating a safe and empowering space for healing, self-discovery, and growth. She sees every person as an expert of their own life, equipped with unique strengths to navigate challenges.
Key Discussion Points
- What Is Trauma and Who Experiences It?
Trauma isn’t just about major life-threatening events—it can also be a buildup of smaller experiences that impact mental well-being. Betty explains the difference between “big T” and “small T” trauma and why many people don’t realize they’ve experienced it. - The Hidden Struggles of Unrecognized Trauma
Many people dismiss their own trauma, comparing it to others’ experiences or believing they should have “handled it better.” Betty discusses why denial is common and how it can delay healing. - The Stigma Around Trauma and Mental Health
Even within mental health communities, people sometimes judge or minimize others’ trauma. Betty addresses why trauma is subjective and why comparing struggles can be harmful. - How Trauma Shapes Behavior and Relationships
Unresolved trauma can lead to deep-seated fears, difficulty trusting others, and even physical health issues. Betty explains how trauma rewires the brain and influences emotional responses, often without people realizing it. - What Is Trauma-Informed Care?
Trauma-informed care isn’t just about treating trauma—it’s about creating a safe, supportive environment where clients feel understood and respected. Betty shares how this approach helps minimize re-traumatization and supports long-term healing. - The Challenges of Trauma Therapy
Starting therapy can be daunting, especially for trauma survivors. Betty discusses the difficulties of opening up, facing painful emotions, and navigating the ups and downs of healing. - The Path to Healing
Therapy doesn’t “cure” trauma, but it helps individuals regulate emotions, build self-awareness, and develop healthier coping strategies. Betty explains the importance of patience and self-compassion in the healing journey.
Conclusion
Trauma impacts people in different ways, but healing is possible. In this episode, Betty offers valuable insights into understanding trauma, breaking the stigma, and finding the right support.
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Show Notes
00:00 – Introduction
Betty Lim, a mental health therapist specializing in trauma-informed care, joins the conversation to discuss the impact of unresolved trauma.
02:00 – What Is Trauma?
Betty explains trauma as a response to distressing experiences and how it manifests differently for each person.
06:30 – The Reality of Unrecognized Trauma
Not all trauma is obvious. Betty discusses how smaller, repeated experiences can have a lasting impact on mental health.
11:00 – The Stigma Around Trauma
Why do people compare trauma? Betty explores common misconceptions and the harmful tendency to invalidate others’ experiences.
15:30 – Trauma’s Effect on Behavior and Relationships
From fear of abandonment to emotional shutdowns, Betty explains how unresolved trauma shapes interpersonal dynamics.
19:50 – What Is Trauma-Informed Care?
An overview of trauma-informed therapy, how it differs from traditional therapy, and why it matters in the healing process.
24:40 – Challenges Trauma Survivors Face in Therapy
The difficulties of opening up, confronting painful memories, and the fear of being retraumatized in a therapy setting.
29:30 – The Ultimate Goal of Trauma Therapy
Healing is not about erasing trauma but learning how to manage emotions, reactions, and relationships in a healthier way.
33:00 – Advice for Trauma Survivors Considering Therapy
Betty shares words of encouragement for those afraid to start therapy and why healing, though difficult, is worth it.
38:00 – Final Thoughts & Closing
A recap of key takeaways and a reminder that support is available for those struggling with trauma.
